Prioritising the things we perceive need DOING over our own Self Care and pleasure is an epidemic I see amongst women everywhere (myself included at times) - and with the words 'Self Care' being thrown around in the online space every where we turn it can feel daunting, overwhelming and downright confusing to understand what this looks like in the day-to-day reality of a busy and full life.

2016 was the year I finally decided I couldn't carry my not good enough story around any longer.

I was freakin weary from lugging this incredibly heavy burden for more than 3 decades - plus I had a plethora of back issues which I intuited were deeply connected to the weight of this load - and so I courageously made a loving and heartfelt commitment to do whatever it took to let this baggage of non-serving beliefs go for good.

Feeling unworthy, of little value, a failure and never enough had plagued me my whole life, sabotaging any attempts I had of creating success. In reflection (gotta love hindsight) it's so easy to see why I always 'failed' at things - the underlying core belief  I held that I just wasn't good enough fed into everything I did - and the ultimate lack of (perceived) success only kept me going around in circles as it went straight into my 'I'm a failure' story.

What is Self Love?

The dictionary translation - a regard for one's own well-being and happiness.

But what does this actually look and feel like in the reality of day to day life in the modern masculine world?

I read and talk a lot with the sisters in my life about Self Love - and like most women I am exploring what it means to genuinely love myself on a moment to moment basis - but how does a woman truly embody this kind of love when the masculine paradigm she lives within consistently tells her that she isn't enough? Not enough until she loses weight, enhances her breasts and arse in some way, has a baby, a pumping career and successfully juggles both at the same time with ease and perfection? (and this, ladies, is just the tip of the iceberg!)